Wednesday, July 24, 2013

15 Week Bumpdate and a Visit from my Parents

Hello! 15 weeks down and still chugging along! The past week has been a pretty busy week in the Fox household. We had a surprise baby shower at our house for one of our church friends on Saturday, which I will be dedicating an entire blog post on later this week, Brendan left for a little over a month, and my parents stopped by yesterday on their way to Florida.

Last week was crazy for Brendan at work and he ended up going in Tuesday and not coming home until Thursday night, and then he had to pack and leave to go down to Ft. Benning, GA for the next 5 weeks for a course, so our last week together we didn't actually see each other too much. Fortunately I plan on making two weekend trips down to see him to help break up the time we are actually apart. It's funny, I was talking to my friend Hunter last week, whose husband is also at Benning for a different school and we discussed how even when our husbands aren't deployed they still end up spending a ton of time away from home. Between IBOLC, Ranger School, time in the field training here at Ft. Bragg and this other school, out of our two years of living together he has probably spent 10 months if not more of them gone. Don't get me wrong, I'm not complaining, but it's just funny how different our normal is than some of our other married friends.

The night before Brendan left we were able to have a nice dinner together and watch a movie (Brendan fell asleep during that part)

My friends down here are so nice and thoughtful. Sunday, which was the first day that Brendan was gone and usually my hardest day while I start to get into my routine of being alone, I was definitely not alone. After church, I went to lunch with friends, then went for a walk with a different friend, then went over to friends for dinner. I was so busy all day I didn't really have a ton of time to be sad that Brendan left. During the week it's pretty easy because I work during the day and go for walks with friends or have church activities in the evenings, then obsess over baby stuff at night, plus I really like reading books and usually do that for a few hours.

Last night, my parents stopped over in Fayetteville on their way down to Florida. They just retired this year and recently sold their house up in Connecticut and are on their way to starting a new life in retirement in the Sunshine State. I know it's a really tough move for them because our neighbors in Cheshire are amazing and like family, plus my mom's two brothers live close by in Connecticut, but they'll adjust... and probably have visitors at least once a month. Personally I'm excited especially about two things: 1) They will be really close to Disney and I love Epcot. 2) They have a lot of pools for me to float my pregnant-self in when I come to visit!

Here are a few photos from their visit:
My mom and I at their hotel
My dad more excited about the baby bump

Us in Downtown Fayetteville after eating some dinner


Of course they had to come to our house and spend some time with the granddogs, this is Abigail
and Carrie sits like a human.

And now for the moment you are actually interested in!

Thankfully my parents were here to help me take my photo this week (my Mom won the contest and it only took her two photos)... notice the bigger chalkboard?

How far along? 15 Weeks
Total weight gain/loss: gained 3ish lbs
Maternity clothes? still 2 pair of maternity jeans and a top
Stretch marks? No
Sleep: Sleeping A LOT
Best moment this week: tie between seeing my parents and seeing Kelly's face at her surprise party
Have you told family and friends: Yes!
Miss Anything? I really really miss sushi, and pepperoni, and soft cheeses, oh.. and wine still. I've started putting my cranberry spritzers in wine glasses
Movement: No
Food cravings: Everything I'm not supposed to eat plus fruit, pasta, and mozzeralla cheese
Anything making you queasy or sick: the smell of trash cans and for some reason after missing out on morning sickness the entire first trimester it's been showing up randomly this trimester
Have you started to show yet: A little bump so far.. which is growing into a medium size bump
Gender prediction: Girl
Labor Signs: No
Belly Button in or out? In, although it's getting shallower.
Wedding rings on or off? On, although out of the two of them, I have a feeling that the engagement ring will come off first, its a little snug!
Happy or Moody most of the time: Happy except little things can make me cry
Looking forward to: Finding out the gender (TWO WEEKS FROM FRIDAY!) & feeling the baby move!


So that's really it! I still feel pretty good although my back tends to get sore by the end of the work day, I think I need to remember to get up and move away from my desk more. I'm excited to spend this weekend in Columbus, GA with Brendan and my friends down there!

Thursday, July 18, 2013

Keeping Spirits High While Pregnant

All Aboard the Hot Mess Express!


I don't know about other moms-to-be, but with my hormones going haywire and my body changing, sometimes it's difficult for me to feel good about myself. Most of the time I feel like a complete mess and often, I find myself struggling to feel beautiful. I once saw a shirt that said "All Aboard the Hot Mess Express," and I feel like I should probably own one in every color for the amount of days I think I should wear them as a public apology to society.

Over the past few months I have started come up with some little things that seem to make me feel better. Some of them are a little silly but they really do make me feel good.

Beauty

Let me be clear: I know that beauty is not external but internal and that I am beautiful in the eyes of my Creator no matter what, but sometimes when I look in the mirror I feel like a mess on the outside so these things are things that I do solely for me, not for anyone else.

Keeping My Hair Under Control- I don't know what it is about going and getting my hair cut, but I get it cut once every six weeks and it really brightens up my day and makes me feel beautiful. It might be because I finally found a hair stylist that I love (if you live in Fayetteville, NC get an appointment with Lisa at Tangles, shes hilarious and gives you exactly what you want, I hardly have to use two sentences to describe my vision. She's like a mind reader!) Also, I try really hard to make a habit of doing my hair every day before I go out, whether that be just blow-drying it, styling it in a pony-tail, or (on a very rare occasion lately) curling it. I've found that on those days where I decide to roll out of bed and let my hair do whatever, I feel sloppy and discombobulated.
because no one wants to see me like this all the time


Keeping my Nails Painted- there is something about looking down at my nails and seeing them all the same color and not chipped that really makes me feel put together for some reason, so I try to paint my nails once a week in a fun color... summer is the best for that because you can get away with loud orange or cool mint! I don't go and get my nails done all the time because that gets expensive, but I swear, I never liked pedicures until i became pregnant. Now I would honestly go just to have them massage my feet!

Face- While sometimes I can get away with showering at night time, the one thing that really gets my morning going that I have to do every day is wash my face with an exfoliating cleanser. It makes my skin feel like its glowing when I'm wondering where that elusive pregnancy glow is hiding. I also try make sure to put makeup on every day just because I feel a little bit more polished. My makeup routine takes less than five minutes and my husband is thankful for that because I tend to spend the time that some people spend putting on makeup changing my mind on outfits 4 or 5 times before leaving the house. I use Garnier BB Cream as a foundation and moisturizer because it's sheer enough to not hide my freckles but gives me enough coverage to even out my skin, Clinique Bronzer to make me look less like a vampire, a little bit of blush, mascara (I switch between Lash Injection by Two Faced which I use almost every day and They're Real by Benefit for when I want them to be super long!), and tinted lip balm and I'm out the door.

No Sweat Pants Allowed- One rule that I think probably stems from living in New York City for a while is that if I'm leaving the house and I'm not on my way to the gym or something equivalent, I don't wear sweats. I know that this seems stupid and that there are TONS of cute sweat pants and workout clothes out there, it's just a mental thing for me. I love dressing up and wearing dresses and cute tops, and since I will only have this bump until January, I need to try to dress it up as cute as possible!
Like I said, it's better if I save my sweats for the gym and couch time

Other Little Things

Sometimes I just need a time out, and I find it hard to take one. When I get home from work, there always seems to be something that I need to do whether it's grocery shopping, cooking dinner, doing laundry, sweeping the floor for the 56th time in one week... I just feel like I can never sit down which leaves me feeling drained. A few little things throughout the week can really make a difference in my mood, even if they seem silly.

Fancy Drinks- My husband and I are social people. We like to have people over, go out to dinner, and spend time with our friends. Sometimes when we go out to dinner I stick with water or Sprite, but every once in a while if we're going somewhere nice and everyone is ordering drinks I order myself a Shirley Temple or something fruity and non-alcoholic (DUH) to blend in and not feel left out. When we have people over our house I usually make myself a fancy lemonade or fruit smoothie. Some of my favorites are: Strawberry Basil Lemonade, Watermelon Smoothies, and Cranberry Spritzers (which if you're feeling really fancy you can put in a champagne glass!)
This is one of my favorite watermelon smoothies, I will probably post my recipes in a few weeks

Taking Some Time to Read a Magazine- After I make my fancy cranberry spritzer, my favorite thing to do is grab a magazine, sit on the couch and just pore over the pages. Brendan used his Delta SkyMiles that were about to expire to get some magazine subscriptions and asked me if there were any on there that I would like to order... I almost died when I looked down at the list and saw that Real Simple was one of the ones we could order. Every once in a while when I'm in the grocery store, I would pick up a copy and read it over and over again looking at the recipes, deciding which books to add to my ever growing Books I Want To Read list, so when I had the opportunity to get the magazine every month I was so excited! My first one came last month and I think I have read through it 6 times, I swear sometimes it takes the littlest things to make me happy.

Walking around a Bookstore and Getting Some Fun Reads- My parents lived in Connecticut about 20 minutes outside of Yale when I was in high school and college, and one of my favorite things to do used to be driving into New Haven and going to their used bookstore on campus. You could find so many books there and they were so inexpensive! One day I actually picked up an entire volume of History of France books that were published in 1890 for less than $100 (I was a French Major in college if you were wondering why this excited me). I recently discovered that at the top of my street, there is the hugest used bookstore I have ever been in. It's amazing. I have been able to pick up a ton of books off of my list that were just stuck on there because I didn't feel like spending $15 at a normal bookstore or just never got around to ordering them off Amazon. Lately, I've been really into reading about English History. This is another way for me to relax and decompress, I went through a season where I was only reading very serious books and while I still think it's important to mix those in, sometimes I think it's also important to read something where you can just turn your mind on autopilot and just enjoy the book without having to reflect too hard on it.
Lately, I have been making my way back through CS Lewis's Chronicles of Narnia in between other books
Spend Time With my Dogs- Carrie and especially Abigail may not be the smartest little pooches but they are definitely a bundle of laughs. They act like little humans most of the time, especially Abigail who is partially a hound so she "talks" to me.

Now they know they're not supposed to go on carpet, but Abigail, the dumb one likes to test her limits by resting her head on the carpet in our room while I'm getting ready for work
Just one more photo because these two are too cute to handle

I'm sure I will be adding onto this list later, but these are a few things that make me feel ready to face the world despite my crazy hormones! What habits do you keep that make you feel like a million bucks?

Wednesday, July 17, 2013

14 Week Update!

Hello! 14 weeks pregnant and no big updates. Since Brendan is leaving for about a month for some training this Saturday, we he spent this weekend moving some heavy things out of what will become the baby's room so that while he's gone I can start decorating. 

Although we don't know if it's a boy or girl yet, either way we know the room is going to be forest themed for a few reasons. The first reason is pretty obvious, our last name is Fox so having little foxes in the room would be super cute. The second should also be pretty obvious if you know me... I have a slight obsession with moose and have a million stuffed moose and think that they would go perfect in the forest themed room! Since we are renting our house and we will probably be moving (thanks Army) within the next 2-3 years anyways, I don't plan on painting. Luckily the room is already a pretty shade of light green that will be perfect regardless of if it's a boy or girl! I do have a few projects to keep me busy while Brendan is gone including re purposing an Ikea Expedit shelf into a changing table, organizing some closet storage, and researching/registering for baby stuff... I'm sure that my addiction to Pinterest will continue to add more to this to-do list.


I think I'm going to get a bigger chalk board, I need more space to doodle, I feel like I'm cramming things in all the time


How far along? 14 Weeks
Total weight gain/loss: gained 3 lbs
Maternity clothes? still 2 pair of maternity jeans and a top
Stretch marks? No
Sleep: Sleeping A LOT
Best moment this week: Watching DVDs on the couch with Brendan
Have you told family and friends: Yes!
Miss Anything? Sushi, Wine, the second cup of coffee
Movement: No
Food cravings: Fruit, Sour Patch Kids, Lemonade, Pink Berry
Anything making you queasy or sick: the smell of trash cans and cleaning out the fridge
Have you started to show yet: A little bump so far
Gender prediction: Girl
Labor Signs: No
Belly Button in or out? In
Wedding rings on or off? On, although out of the two of them, I have a feeling that the engagement ring will come off first, its a little snug!
Happy or Moody most of the time: Happy!
Looking forward to: Finding out the gender & feeling the baby move!

Wednesday, July 10, 2013

I'm not fat, I'm pregnant!


Yup! That's right! In case you have been seeing some photos of me and wondering if I have forgetting to do sit ups, I'm not getting fat... Brendan and I are expecting a little baby Fox come January!

Over the winter, Brendan and I decided that as much as we loved our fur-babies (dogs) Carrie and Abigail, we would love a human baby even more, so come spring we decided to start trying to make that a reality! The first month, I bought a total of 9 pregnancy tests which I started taking the moment I could find out if I was pregnant.. the first 6 were negative and I resigned myself to wait to try again next month. About a week later, I was feeling really tired and not myself so I decided to take one more test. I walked into the bathroom calling over my shoulder to Brendan that I was about to waste another $3 to confirm I still wasn't pregnant. Then about 3 minutes later, I ran out of the bathroom screaming with this in my hand!

May 8th: PREGNANT!
Brendan and I were both shocked and super excited. It had taken my mom a really long time to get pregnant with me so I had assumed it probably wouldn't be that easy for us. As we sat down for dinner that night, we could hardly find the words to thank God for this miracle. Often, we're still speechless, but every night before we go to sleep Brendan grabs my hand and says, "OK let's pray for baby," and we lay silently speaking words of praise to God for this gift of life.

We decided at that point to wait to tell our parents until they both came to visit for Memorial Day. The next several weeks were very hard because I am the worst at keeping secrets. In fact, even my parents were surprised I lasted 2 weeks without telling them.  I called my parents when they were on their way down and asked them to put it on speaker because I had to tell them something (completely different) and they thought I was telling them I was pregnant then, meaning my parents don't think I can even keep a secret for 2 hours! Naturally, since I couldn't spill the beans to my parents, I told my best friends and my grandmother, Nanny. Nanny actually guessed I was pregnant before I told her and ruined the surprise, but its ok.

We had our first doctor's appointment on May 23 and at that point Baby Fox was so little that you could hardly tell it was there, so Brendan has nicknamed the baby "Spot" which our families have also adopted. Since Spot was so small and they weren't sure what the due date would be, we had another appointment 2 weeks later so they could get a better idea of when we should expect our new addition  (January 17!).

At the next appointment, we confirmed that there was one Spot there (although Brendan secretly was hoping for twins), and Brendan informed me that Spot had graduated to Peanut in that photo, but the name Spot had already stuck.

8 Weeks! 1 x is the head the other is the bum!
I've decided to do a bump board and am torturing Brendan weekly by making him take photos of the same thing. This is the first week I did!

of course in this one you can't actually see the drawing of the lime! but It's true, no margaritas for 7 more months!



My first trimester was relatively uneventful. I didn't really get sick, I just was EXHAUSTED all the time and pretty emotional. Usually, when Brendan goes to sleep early, I have trouble sleeping but some nights I would roll into bed before him... at 7:45.

This week officially marks my second trimester and I've started to have a little bit more energy which I expend sweeping and vacuuming dog hair and cooking. We went to the doctor on Monday and listened to the baby's heartbeat which was awesome! On August 9th we find out the gender, although Brendan won't be there so I am going to TRY to have them put it in an envelope so we can find out together.. but once again I'm bad at keeping secrets.

I missed week 12 so you'll notice a pretty big difference in bump size here!!

I saw this little survey on another blog and thought it was a pretty good way to track how everything is progressing so I'm going to start using it too!

How far along? 13 Weeks
Total weight gain/loss: gained 2 lbs
Maternity clothes? 2 pair of maternity jeans and a top (thanks Mom!)
Stretch marks? No
Sleep: Sleeping A LOT
Best moment this week: Hearing the baby's heartbeat!!!!
Have you told family and friends: Yes!
Miss Anything? Sushi, hot dogs (especially around holiday weekends!) and wine.
Movement: No
Food cravings: Fruit and Lemonade
Anything making you queasy or sick: the smell of trash cans and cleaning out the fridge
Have you started to show yet: A little bump so far... looks more like a food baby to me.
Gender prediction: I say Girl, Brendan doesn't have an opinion.
Labor Signs: No
Belly Button in or out? In
Wedding rings on or off? On
Happy or Moody most of the time: Happy!
Looking forward to: Finding out the gender & feeling the baby move!




Tuesday, June 25, 2013

New York, I Love You.

As most of you know, I spent my post-college/pre-marriage years living and working in New York City. I was lucky enough to move in with three strangers that ended up becoming three of my closest friends. We had (for NYC standards) a pretty sweet setup. We lived on West 50th Street just west of Times Square near the Hudson River which was convenient to Central Park, Grand Central, the Subway, and basically anywhere else you could hope to explore in the Big Apple.
This is a photo of the front of my old apartment building
These are my three roommates and me at an outdoor restaurant a few blocks from our  apartment!


There are some days that I miss New York and being able to step outside my apartment and feel like the possibilities were endless. I think the thing I love the most about this city is that every neighborhood has it's own personality. You can literally walk 10 minutes or get off one Subway stop away from where you just were and feel like you are in a completely different city.

Since leaving, I have been contemplating compiling a post of the places in New York that I love the most and have some of my most cherished memories. I have talked to several people who have visited New York and hated it, I think most of them were just going to the wrong places. Lately, I have a few friends that have taken trips and asked for recommendations, so I decided to write this post about where to go if you want to fall in love with New York.

Take my advice, I worked in hotels and if people asked me for advice on where to go or what to do my answer would be the same to them... Don't spend your money on the bus tours, get away from Times Square, and go to the places that are the reason that people who live here love it!

I took this photo from Top of the Rock, it's a beautiful view but a pretty expensive elevator ride

First Things First!!

Getting around New York

photo credit

Many people can find big cities like NYC very confusing to navigate, especially for people that are from say... Oklahoma (by the way this post is written partially for my friend Hunter who happens to be from there, so please don't take offense!) so let me let you in on a little secret New York is one big grid system...

Streets stretch across the city from East to West... like lines of latitude on the Earth (thanks to my friend Chris for making sure I clear this up!) While Avenues span from North to South like lines of Longitude. When walking across the city from East to West, 1st Ave is all the way on the East Side and 11th Ave is all the way on the West Side (6th Ave marks the middle, so anything East is considered East Side and West is considered West Side) while 125th Street is way North at the top of Central Park and 1st Ave is way south and goes across what are known as the East and West Village. So, if you need to go West, just make sure the Avenues are getting larger in numbers, and if you need to go south just make sure the Streets are getting smaller in numbers!

Downtown (lower than 1st Ave) gets confusing because the streets start having names and aren't in a grid anymore, but luckily most people have smartphones now! (I have no idea what we did before those)

Taxis: Hailing taxis is considered an art form by some, so let me give you a few tips so you don't look like an idiot waving your hands around in the middle of the street...
  • Yellow taxis that have the numbers on top that light up are the way to go. Sometimes you will see Lincoln Town cars stop and try to see if you need a ride... these are known as gypsy cabs and they are a rip off. The yellow cabs are regulated by the city and can't just make up what they're charging you... and most now accept credit and debit cards!
  • If a the taxi does not have the numbers at the top lit up, it either means it's off duty or someone is already in it so don't bother chasing it down the street
  • When telling the driver where you want to go, give them the intersection, not the address... and start with the Street (North to South) followed by the Avenue (East to West) For example when I used to get a cab home, I would say (50th Street between 10th and 11th).. and guess what! I always made it home!
Subways: Honestly, I love the Subways. They are easy once you get the hang of them and A LOT less expensive than taxis. If you plan on using the subway while you're in NYC it's most cost effective to buy the all day or all week pass depending how long you are in town, and it works on the buses too.

There is a great website online, they also have a smart phone app called HopStop which allows you to enter where you want to go, and what method you wish to use to get there and voila! It gives you all the directions you need for making your way around New York's underground without carrying that big bulky map!

A few things I would like to warn you about so that you learn from my subway mistakes:

  • The subway has what are called lines and within those lines are three separate trains... for example the Blue Line has the A, C, and E trains, these lines go to the same stops for the most part, but will veer away from each other at some point so make sure you have the correct color as well as number if HopStop or a map tells you that you can ONLY take one or two specific trains there.
  • Each Subway line also has express and local trains, which means that some trains might look like they are following the same path, but they might not stop at every stop so make sure you get on a local one if you need to.
  • Each line goes two directions so make sure you get on the one heading the direction you need to go. Usually the train will say that it is going towards it's final destination. For example, I needed to take the L train which goes between West 14th Street and somewhere in Brooklyn.. I needed to get to 14th Street and First Ave, I got on the train at Union Square and I heard the announcement say that I was heading towards Brooklyn, and I knew I didn't want to go to Brooklyn so I got off... Long story short, I was on the right train going the right direction, I just had to get off two stops before Brooklyn, so before you step on the train, take a look at where you are, where you need to get off, and where the last stop is in that direction and you should be golden!
  • If you get lost in the Subway, don't panic. Just get on a train headed towards Midtown and get off at one of the following stations (because they have the most other trains that you can use to transfer where you need to go): Times Square, Union Square, Grand Central, Penn Station/34th Street.
Walking: walking is a great way to get around the city, but just remember it is a pretty big place and you don't want your dogs to be barking after half a day, so wear some comfortable (yet stylish) shoes, and don't be afraid to use other forms of transportation!

Pedi-cabs, Horse-drawn Carriages ect.: take a horse-drawn carriage ride through Central Park if you want, or hitch a ride from one of those guys riding the bicycle cab if it's going to enhance your New York Experience, but if it won't, skip it. They're really expensive.

Midtown and Central Park

Midtown is known by most people as the heart of New York City. It is home to Times Square, Grand Central, the New York Public Library, Rockefeller Center, Central Park, the Empire State Building and me! (for a few years) 

Central Park

Everyone who goes to New York goes to Central Park. I was blessed enough to walk through it every day on my way to work. While you're there, here are a few of my favorite places in the park:

Central Park Zoo- My job was only 3 blocks from the entrance to the zoo located on the southeast side of Central Park, when the weather was warm, I would spend all of my lunch breaks on a bench here. The zoo is a great place to go, even if you don't decide to go inside walk up from the Southeast corner of Central Park, next to the iconic Plaza Hotel and through the entrance area. It's a great place to people watch, and if you come around lunch time, they have some really unique food trucks!

Central Park Boathouse: After you walk through the zoo, keep walking North and a little bit West through Central Park until you get to the Central Park Boathouse. This is where all of those movies set in New York are shot with people in rowboats. This is one of my favorite restaurants, I came here on my birthday with my parents one year, and also took Brendan here after he graduated West Point. It's pretty pricey to eat in the Lakeside Restaurant, but they also have some express cafes too, and if you're not hungry it's worth it just to sit on a bench and take in the scene.

Ramble Stone Arch: Keep moving West through Central Park and you will see beautiful fields and statues, but one of my favorite things to just take in is the Ramble Stone Arch located near 77th Street on the North Side of the lake. 

After this, I would consider walking down the West Side of Central Park going South. At the Southwest Corner, you will see the Columbus Circle.

I took this one day on my walk home from work of the Southeast end of Central Park

Columbus Circle in the distance from the middle of Central Park


Times Square/Hell's Kitchen

This area is where I lived, but I generally avoided the area known as "Times Square" because it's always crowded and unless you want to see a Broadway show or go to Toys R Us or the giant M&M store, there is nothing too exciting going on. Luckily, if you walk just two blocks West, you will find yourself on 9th ave, which has some of the best yet least expensive restaurants in New York City.

TKTS Booth: If you are dying to go to a Broadway show while you're in town, but aren't too picky about which one you go to, I suggest going over to the TKTS booth in the middle of Times Square, they offer tickets for same day shows at 50% off there and you can find some great deals for some of the most popular shows, just have a few in your head that you think you'd like to go to. The great thing about seeing a show on Broadway is that each theater only does one play so the sets are awesome, and the theaters are so small that there aren't really any bad seats!

Ziggolini's Pizza Bar: Ok, so this is not where you want to come if you want "traditional New York Style Pizza" because the pizza here is even better! It's thin crust, and cooked to perfection every time. Brendan and I discovered this gem located on 9th Ave between 46th and 47th Street when we were dating, and it has become a borderline obsession for us when we are able to make it back to New York. When we go we split their Diavola pizza (it's a little spicy so if you don't like it, pick something else), wash it down with a bottle of Riesling (this is the ONLY place I can convince Brendan to split some wine with me) and finish it off with their desert pizza consisting of Nutella as the sauce and marshmallows as the topping. I am dying for this meal as I type it!

Tout Va Bien: This is a charming French Restaurant located on a charming street right smack dab in the middle of Manhattan. It's on 51st st between 8th and 9th ave. I discovered it because it was on my walk home from work, I walked by it for 6 months before I decided to test it out... and MAN those 6 months were wasted. The inside has checkered table clothes that bring me right back to when I studied abroad in Paris, and if that isn't enough of a flashback, the majority of patrons the few times I've gone have also been conversing in french. The food here is great classic French food, personally I like escargots.. but if you don't there are tons of other things to try... if you are a seafood person, their Moules Marinière (Mussels) are the bomb! Brendan and I also happened to go to dinner here to celebrate the day we got engaged!

Ink 48 Press Lounge: Once you get a little tired of the hustle and bustle of the theater crowds, make your way West to the Hudson River. If you want to grab a cocktail with a great view or if you're looking for somewhere to go out at night and get a little dressed up, Ink 48 is a hotel on 49th and 11th Ave with an amazing rooftop bar that gives you great views of Manhattan from every direction as well as the Hudson River. I would suggest going there at night and seeing everything lit up.

Hudson River Park: The area known as the Hudson River Park Starts around 56th street and goes all the way downtown, in this area check out Pier 84 and 86. Pier 86 is where you will find the battleship Intrepid (Military and Spouses get in free!) and Pier 84 has some tables, along with some restaurants that serve snacks and often have live music. It's a nice place to unwind for a few minutes on the river. I used to love walking around this area and watching the boats go by!

Midtown East

I worked in Midtown East over by the UN for about a year, and this is definitely one of the parts of the city that tourists LOVE to go to! It's home to Rockefeller Center, Radio City Music Hall, 5th Ave and all of the amazing shopping (if nothing else walk by the windows of Saks 5th Ave on 50th Street... the windows themselves are works of art), Grand Central Terminal, the New York Public Library and Bryant Park. Personally, I didn't spend a ton of time over here except for walking to and from work, but I do have a few favorite areas.

Upstairs at the Kimberly: Located on the 30th floor rooftop of  the Kimberly Hotel on East 50th Street between Lexington and 3rd Ave, this is another great place to get a little dressed up and grab a drink or some appetizers and look at the skyline. I suggest coming here at night to see the city lit up (a few drinks or some appetizers is a lot less expensive and more fun than a ticket for an elevator ride to the Top of the Rock or Empire State Building)... this place also serves a great brunch.

The New York Public Library: Even if you don't read, GO HERE! It's beautiful and free and a great place to take a break from walking. 

Bryant Park: This is probably hands down my favorite place in New York. It's located directly behind the Library, and less than 3 blocks from Times Square. This place is an oasis, when I would go there, it seemed like every time I stepped off the sidewalk and into the park, the world went quiet. At Christmas time, I love to go there and watch people skate on the rink and go through the shops that they set up, I love it so much more than Rockefeller Center, and in the summertime, it's a great place to grab a bench or table and sit and read, and if you're thirsty or hungry the Bryant Park Cafe located on the back porch of the Library is great. I went here all the time with a friend and we would get a pitcher of margaritas or sangria and some appetizers. I love their watermelon skewers which have lime juice squeezed over them and some chili powder... I actually make an adaptation of them at a lot of our summer parties. If you don't go anywhere else in New York that I recommend, COME HERE.
This is the ice rink known as "The Pond" located at  Bryant Park in the middle of the Winter. It's even more beautiful during the summertime


Downtown

South of Midtown, the price to rent an apartment skyrockets as the neighborhoods get quainter. I didn't spend as much time in this area as I wish I did. As funny as it seems to people that don't live in New York, you tend to get kind of stuck in your neighborhood because there is so much to do that you sometimes don't venture out into other areas as much. I have to say though, every time I did come down to this area, I wondered why I didn't come here as much and then immediately wished I was a millionaire and could live there!

Chelsea/Greenwich Village

This area is basically from 30th Street down to Houston (pronounced HOUSE-TON) Street west of 6th Ave. There are plenty of other "sub neighborhoods depending on who you ask, but I am just going to stick with these for the sake of not confusing you. Walk around these neighborhoods, they are beautiful and have a ton of character... and if you are a Sex and the City fan, although her apartment was technically supposed to be on the Upper East Side, the exterior that they used to film it was located in the West Village on 66 Perry Street (Between Bleecker and West 4th).

Highline Park: This little gem is a park built on an old historic freight train line and is full of art and flowers. On Tuesdays they have free tours during from 6:30-7:30 followed by free stargazing from 7:30-9:30

Chelsea Market: If you're a foodie, take the time to walk through Chelsea Market located on West 15th Street between 9th and 10th ave. They have tons of great little restaurants and shops and its a great place to walk around and get some souvenirs that your other foodie friends might appreciate more than a snow-globe!

The Frying Pan: This is another one of my favorite places, whenever friends came to visit me in the summer we would always head over to this casual restaurant and bar located on the Hudson River at West 26th Street. It's basically an old barge turned bar that serves drinks, burgers and food like that. It's a great place to sit around with friends and laugh... if you want to work up a sweat beforehand, there are kayak rentals next to it and you can kayak around the Hudson!

Washington Square Park: While you're in this area, walk through Greenwich Village and over to Washington Square Park... I have seen people with pianos just playing on a random Saturday and tons of other interesting things. 
Like I said, It's not unusual for a Baby Grand Piano to be played in the middle of Washington Square Park!

This is a view from the deck of the Frying Pan


Union Square/East Village/ Lower East Side

If I lived in New York again, this might be the area I want to live in! I love this area and how much there is going on... even at 4 in the morning!

Union Square Farmer Market: if you happen to be in NYC on a Saturday Morning, go to the Union Square Farmers Marker, vendors come in from upstate New York with tons of fresh produce and locally made cheese, bread etc. This is also a great place to find amazing art and paintings. I think that one of the coolest things about New York is the ability to step into a place like this and forget you are in one of the busiest places in the world.

Crocodile Lounge: While you are on 14th Street, head south a few blocks to 1st Ave to Crocodile Lounge. Here you can pretend you are in middle school again and play Skee Ball in the back... they actually have skee ball leagues also. Another perk of this place is the little ticket you get when you order a drink, this ticket gets you free personal size pizza. So if you're looking for a quick snack.. this place is a good pit stop!

Crif Dogs: Okay, I have a confession to make. Hot Dogs are one of my favorite foods. So when I found this place, I was in awe. It's a little hole in the wall on St. Marks Place (which you should walk around regardless of if you stop here!) which has become one of the meccas for hot dogs in NYC. As if hot dogs were healthy anyways, this place wraps them in bacon and deep fries them. On top of that, they have the best toppings, I recommend the Tsunami Dog which has crushed pineapples, scallions, teryaki sauce and I always add jalapenos. This place also has a secret bar which is located in the back of the telephone booth called Please Don't Tell, you have to make reservations, and once you get there, go in the booth dial one and wait for someone to answer and let you back. I think it's pretty cool.

10 Degrees Wine Bar: If you don't feel like having hot dogs, but still find yourself strolling on St. Marks Place, stop in 10 Degrees. They have a great list of wines, beers and small plates. Personally I love wine so this was one of my favorite destinations.

Freeman's Restaurant: If you are splurging on a meal, do it here. Freeman's is a little restaurant in the Lower East side, take a cab or else you won't find it and tell him to drop you on Rivington between The Bowery and Chrystie on the right-hand side and you will find it down an alley lit with little white Christmas lights. This place is AMAZING, I get the filet every single time because it's so good. It reminds me of a hunting lodge on the inside, but please, please, please come here for dinner. They don't accept reservations so if you don't mind eating early get here when they open at 6 and then explore the neighborhood once your belly is full of their amazing food! If you don't believe me, just click on their website and tell me that you didn't just fall in love with this place!
This is Union Square and those tents are all stands at the Farmer 's Market

Lower Manhattan

This is code word for the Financial district including the new World Trade Center along with the Brooklyn Bridge area and Seaport. I worked near Wall Street for a short time, and it isn't my favorite part of NYC but  it is a destination that most visitors are interested in. The ferries to Ellis Island and the Statue of Liberty are located at Battery park and are fun, Brendan and I actually took one before I left NYC. Although If I'm in this area, there are a few other places I prefer to go to.

Brooklyn Bridge: I've been over to the Brooklyn Bridge a few times and it's beautiful. If you're looking for a nice walk, you can walk across it. It's a great place to take some photos

South Street Seaport: If I am in this area, my hands down favorite place to go is the South Street Seaport. It is a time warp in the shadows of the sky scrapers. There are great restaurants and great shopping here, but besides that the streets are made of cobblestone, they have old sea vessels and you feel like you just got teleported to a New England fishing town... until you look around and see all the other people! During the summer, New York has a few man made beaches called Water Taxi beaches where they transported sand and have games of volleyball and even pop up mini golf! One of these is located here. There is a ton to do here, and if you are down in Lower Manhattan, do yourself a favor and come here!

The Water Taxi Beach at South Street Seaport

The Brooklyn Bridge

Final notes and advice

These are just a few of my favorite places, I'm sure if you go to these areas you will find some of your own. If you are looking for more organized activities here are some great websites that I used when I lived here that let you know what's going on in NYC weekly:


Restaurant Week

Twice a year, New York has Restaurant Week (which is actually 3 weeks long) where you can make reservations in some great restaurants and get 3 course meals for $35 which is a lot less than they would have been. Click on the link to see if you will be in town for the next one, because you might be able to dine in style for a fraction of the cost!


I hope this post has been helpful and I hope that if you do get to visit the Big Apple you are better equipped to fall in love with it!




Wednesday, June 12, 2013

Raising Ebeneezers

I am poured out like water,
and all my bones are out of joint;
my heart is like wax;
it is melted within my breast;
Psalm 22:14

Have you ever gone through a season in your life that downright sucks? I have and I'm going through it now. I have definitely been struggling with some spiritual warfare. This has played itself out internally and also externally into my relationship with my husband. I must admit that during this time, I have not always looked to God for comfort and strength when I should have, in fact I have been pointedly having short conversations with no depth with Him because I honestly have no idea what to say. I have been spending most of my time trying to find my own way out of this hole I dug for myself feeling spiritually dry and abandoned.

Yet, while I have been ignoring God, he has been speaking to me so loudly that I can no longer ignore what He is trying to tell me. In my women's bible study, we have been going through 1 Samuel. A few weeks ago we were in chapter 7 where Samuel places a stone of help or Ebeneezer as a monument to what God has done for His people. Similarly, last week at church, we discussed the life of Joshua, particularly chapter 4 of the Book of Joshua in which the Lord commanded him to have the men take and make a tribute of the 12 stones in the middle of the Jordan river where it had been cut off so that they could flee.

And he said to the people of Israel, “When your children ask their fathers in times to come, ‘What do these stones mean?’ then you shall let your children know, ‘Israel passed over this Jordan on dry ground.’ For the Lord your God dried up the waters of the Jordan for you until you passed over, as the Lord your God did to the Red Sea, which he dried up for us until we passed over, so that all the peoples of the earth may know that the hand of the Lord is mighty, that you may fear the Lord your God forever.” Joshua 4:21-24

Over the past few days, the idea of monuments to God's faithfulness have stuck in my head. I am so forgetful that in the valleys of my life, I forget to revisit the gifts that have been given to me by God when in fact I should not only be revisiting them, but sharing them with others to declare God's love and faithfulness. So the past few days I have been coming up with a few memorials of my own and here they are:



I met my husband when we both were not Christians,  when he left for Ranger School, we were still not Christians, God used the next 6 months of separation to place people who spoke Truth into our lives and lead us both to Christ separately, yet simultaneously. One of my sweetest memories is the first time we prayed together, I had tears streaming down my face.

When I was at my lowest and extremely critical and cynical, God placed a community of Christians who loved me despite my unbelief and who spoke and continue to speak boldly to me about my need for Jesus
A week before our wedding celebration, Brendan and I made the decision to get baptized. He was baptized first and then as the leader of our Christ-centered family, baptized me.

After moving to Fayetteville and leaving out church family in Georgia behind, we wondered if we would ever find a church as special as Crosspointe. It just so happened that the first church we visited in North Carolina has become our home and family. It's filled with other followers of Christ who encourage us and spur on our pursuit of the Gospel.


I need to point out that all of these amazing testaments to God's love for me have happened within the past year, yet somehow along the way I forgot about them. I am going to make it a point to continue to place memorials of God's faithfulness in places that I can go when I am feeling empty, and encourage you to do the same!

Wednesday, April 17, 2013

Don't Follow Your Heart


Sometimes people wonder why we should even bother trying if no one is perfect. Christians struggle with questions of why God created laws that He knew full well we would not be able to follow. The short answer is that by knowing these laws, we would be able to see ourselves for what we really are and understand our deep need for a savior.

A very popular motto to live by in today’s world is, “Follow your heart.” Unfortunately, what we often fail to realize is that our “heart” can sometimes deceive us. When we follow our hearts, what we are really doing is following our emotions and making impulsive decisions. For example when my husband and I are arguing and he says something hurtful, my emotions want me to make a comment that would make him hurt as badly as I do. There have been several times that I have fired back some snarky comment to avenge my wounded feelings, and many people wouldn't bat an eye, in fact some people might even encourage giving someone the “taste of their own medicine.” The problem is I know it’s wrong because God commands us to act in love, even if society doesn't see a problem in acting out of anger.

Cultural norms are always changing because we try finding ways to blur the lines between right and wrong so that we can convince ourselves that we aren't doing something that we believe we shouldn't do… but while we bargain with our conscience to try to rationalize our actions, God never changes. He has stayed the same since the beginning of time and He created these laws to stand in juxtaposition with society’s laws so that we would be able to see the stark contrast between the two and to expose the sin that we are trying so desperately to justify.
Those who are well have no need of a physician, but those who are sick. I have not come to call the righteous but sinners to repentance. Luke 5:31-32 
When we forget about God’s laws, we forget why Jesus came in the first place, which was to save us from the darkness in sin; but if we can’t recognize our sin, then the hope of the Gospel is obsolete. If we don’t believe that we are broken, then we have no need to be healed. God gave us the law to expose our brokenness and gave us Jesus to mend it. Following your heart can lead you down roads that you never wanted to go, but following Jesus will always lead you down the path to salvation.